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What's Age Got to Do With It?

What's Age Got to Do With It?


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kristin shaffer

I'm almost 43.

I have a 12-year-old son.

I have a full time very demanding career.

I run Figure & Bikini.

I volunteer in my community.

I have a home to clean, a yard to mow, laundry to do, meals to cook, and a dog to take care of.

To say I'm busy would be a major understatement. Yet, I'm in the best shape of my life **because** of my age.

Huh... you say?

Yes, I actually see my age and my aging, as an asset. To me, getting older is not something to be dreaded. It's to be appreciated.

It's all about perspective.

You see for me age brings security.

It brings a focus and dedication to achieve what I once thought I couldn't.

It brings commitment and perserverence to keep on until I reach the next goal. And then I set another.

It brings confidence that everything will be okay, that it will work out, because I know I can do this.

It brings... contentment. Not the kind of contentment that breeds laziness mind you. It's the kind of contentment that comes from knowing I'm on the right path, that I'm doing what brings me happiness.

I no longer worry needlessly about what others think of me as I know I strive each day to be the kindest, most loving person I can be.

I no longer try to sculpt and morph my body to please anyone but myself, knowing when I'm strong, lean, and eat clean, I feel my absolute best.

I no longer waist time on negative people, activities, or destructive pursuits that I know would only bring disappointment.

Yes, I love getting older and I love the peace that comes with it.

Most of you know I've been on a journey over the past few months. My journey included GAINING fat in order to document every detail of my fat loss process. The in's and out's, up's and down's, with diet details, measurements, good weeks and bad (see: My Weight Loss Transformation).

I did it to show you it can be done without extremes (see: Dangers of Extreme Workouts).

I did it to illustrate that age, genetics (I'm naturally a pear-shape), and time, truly have nothing to do with it.

I did it to teach by example.

Attached is a photo from my first competition of the season, taken 2 weeks ago. Only a few short months ago by body fat was at 26%. I carried around 20 pounds of unnecessary fat. I was tired all the time. I had cellulite on my thighs and butt. And I was not happy with the way I looked or felt.

That's right... age truly has nothing to do with it.

It's all about perspective... what's yours?

With love,


Author: Kristin Shaffer

Member Comments

Fantastic post Kristen. I'm 48 and entering my first bikini contest. I could not agree with you more about what we call aging. One of the things I think is important to remember and you address it, is that this process of sculpting our body is as much, if not more, a mental process than a physical one. And the gifts are more than physical. I love your site and insights!! xoxox Lotte
--lotte look beautiful! That is what I call a perfect body!
Thank you for being such an inspiration and all you do for us!


I'm 54, was sidetracked this winter with some health issues and moving cross country for the winter. I did manage to loose 25 pds and I'm now getting back with a program.

awesome! you are an inspiration!

This is the best article I've seen on any site regarding motivation. Thank you for being so open and honest! I would love to know if yojr suit was custom made or as I love the color.

Thank you everyone for your kind words!

califia yes, the suit is custom made. This particular one was made by Vizion Couture. Les, the designer, is amazing.

With love,


You inspire me Kristin, thanks for putting this site to inspire us all! :)

Thank you Vonni. I love to be of service so your kind words mean the world to me.

With love,


Hi Kristin,

In being 48 now, I truly share where you're coming from! I only took on the pursuit of competing a few months ago and I have to say it feels pretty fabulous. My life has enveloped this ambition and I embrace the education that comes along with all of it.

My two amazing kids are mostly grown now and as I venture forward with baby steps in discovering the path I want to go from this point on in life, it's like the second part of life! The dynamics of the realtionship with my kids is not as a 'mommy' but as a resource of sorts and cheering squad.

I think it's an amazing time and opportunity to pursue body building and competition. I possess a connection and confidence with my 'self' and body that I don't see I had in my younger days.

Now if I get a chance to 'Strike a Pose', baby... I'm gonna Strike It!

Anyhoo, thanks again, Kristin, for a great outlet for ladies who are like-minded!


Christine that's wonderful! I absolutely love your story. When is your competition and where?

And you're very welcome. I'm so glad you are part of our community.

With love,



Hi Kristin,

Apparently, there is a fairly large show in Loveland, Colorado, in August. I'm not certain if I'll be ready for that one or not. And there's another in Cheyenne, Wyoming, in October. My trainer is encouraging me to do the October show as it will be smaller.

What are the best sources for finding out about the various levels of shows going on everywhere? That would be good to know.

Thanks, again, Kristin


Hi Christine,

Thanks so much for your post! Who is the organizational body for the shows you're looking at? NPC? NGA?

With love,


That's a good question, Kristin, I'll have to ask. I'm not versed on the industry so all of it is educational for me. But I'll check it out and share with you what I learn. Thanks, for asking. :)


Rock it girl! I will be 40 in December & I am prepping for my first bikini competition in Nov. When I was a girl I remember looking at women in their 40's with their Mumu's and mom pants, thinking that's what getting old looks like. Our generation has really turned it around & has made age a tool of empowerment. I've always felt (and have been told looked) at least 10 years younger than I am, & as you point out, I truly believe perspective & just a sheer love of life has a lot to do with it. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!

Love this article and all your comments!! 26 weeks out from my first competition, (hopefully), and will be 50 when I step on stage! I was 1 week out this past March and my show was cancelled. I signed up for another, cancelled, a third, cancelled, then stayed on "plan" for 3 more weeks. I anymore...gained 25 pounds, but am hitting the gym again tomorrow. My 19, 16 and 4 year olds ( you can gasp now!), are not excited for oatmeal, but I am!! June 12, here I come.

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