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How Gossiping Causes Weight Gain

How Gossiping Causes Weight Gain


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I’ve had a unique opportunity, a unique privilege, to personally work with hundreds of women this past year, helping them to become the best version of themselves. And through this process one particular thing has stood out as being quite consistent.

Many of us spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about what’s going on in others lives rather than our own.

And as a result - we waste precious time and energy.

In our culture of instant entertainment, reality entertainment, and social networks, we’re spending an incredible amount of time watching and worrying about what everyone else is doing - pick anyone in the entertainment industry, or our neighbors, our spouses, our family members, our coworkers, our friends, our non-friends… we watch them on facebook, we complain about how they did this or that, we gossip and we whine.

We’re so focused on them that we completely get caught up in what we think we’re not and lose sight of what we ARE.

Just think about how all that time and energy, and make no mistake about it there is a LOT spent in this area, could be used in such positive ways to improve our own situation.

And when I see individuals shift their mindset and their actions from negativity (whining, complaining, blaming, deflection, inaction, etc) to one of empowerment (what am I doing to better my life and the world around me?), powerful shifts in their lives take place almost immediately.

Including getting into and staying in crazy, sexy, awesome shape.

In business I have learned that while it’s important to know what your competition is doing, it’s also important not to get so caught up in that and spend so much time on it that you lose the ability to creatively and proactively attend to your own business. I’ve seen proof this where businesses have collapsed under their own weight, too focused on what their competition was doing rather than paying attention to their own customers.

The same is true for us as individuals.

And that, my FABulous friends, is what I call the Power of Focus.

We simply cannot focus positively on ourselves and bettering our own life when we’re focused negatively on others.

It’s impossible.

If we’re so focused on everyone else, how can we possibly attend to our own needs and achieve our own personal goals. We simply won’t.

So what can we do to focus less on others and more on ourselves?

Here are three simple tips you can start adopting today that will greatly improve your results:

1) Stop gossip in its tracks.

If you find yourself caught up in a conversation that has gone down the gossip trail either change the topic or excuse yourself.

2) Turn off the tv.

Create your own reality show. Create your own adventure. Create your own story.

3) Stop social network lurking.

Social networks are great for quickly catching up with friends and relatives but beyond that can become a powerful demotivator if allowed. That’s because social networks have largely become a convenient way to try to “keep up with the Jones”. Click off and go work on building your dream.

What are you doing today to spend less time on negative thoughts and patterns relating to others and adopting positive thoughts and patterns that further you to your goals?

Leave a comment below and let us know.

Remember that thousands are visiting Figure & Bikini and will learn from what you have to add.

With love,


Author: Kristin Shaffer

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